They are natural and spontaneous instincts, which are triggered by circumstances, environment or interactions. However, all relationships may not be positive because many negative emotions too creep in, despite our best efforts to keep them away.
“Emotions are perhaps our most effective means of cross-species communication. We can share our emotions, we can understand the language of feelings, and that’s why we form deep and enduring social bonds with many other beings. Emotions are the glue that binds.”
Do we form enduring bonds?
The environment we create around ourselves, while expressing our emotions define our relationships, cement them or weaken them. Enslaved by emotions, we forget how fleeting they are! Isn’t it paradoxical?
Love and anxiety:
Love, the basic and natural emotion binds us to each other as a family, in the form of siblings and relatives. Anxiety is so closely linked with love that it merges into it, taking a form often disliked by our own dear ones.
‘Why do you get anxious?’ They ask.
The answer lies in our emotional bindings, which get stronger slowly and cannot be understood by all. Anxiety for their security, anxiety for their wellbeing and success, anxiety for myriad other small occasions, considered insignificant by them… and that leads us to disconnect or anger.
Anxiety and anger:
Where there is love, there is anxiety and there is anger! But it is ironic that love dissociates us finally. It is also the anger, which leads to disconnect. Too much concern, too much worry and disrespect for our emotions may antagonize us.
Adolescent love disregards all other emotions and gets completely immersed in its own world. As it advances, it forgets all near and dear ones.
As love matures, it takes a new form and may get sidelined for accomplishing new goals. In the pursuit of success we experience many new emotions like insecurity, jealousy, frustration, despair, determination, fear, pride, appreciation, contentment etc.
All these emotions link us to our friends and colleagues in a positive and negative manner. We take pride in our friend’s success but that reminds us of our own failure, thereby stimulating our negative feelings and thoughts! It is better to pocket those emotions and use them to ignite our inspiration to accomplish something better.
It is their own insecurity of performing below the expectations of their boss that leads people to criticize and let down good employees.
I still need to understand certain emotions, which give pain and pleasure, which lead to attachment and detachment. I still need to grasp why hypocrisy is so dear to some people!
I hope some of my readers will provide some valuable answers. Please share your thoughts.
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