Walking down the road today, my friend shared the worst of her fears with me. I was taken aback! I had always considered her to be the most confident, bubbly and secure person, comfortably settled in life.
The shadows of fears follow us in all walks of life. I am sure all of you have looked at them in trepidation.
Once we grow out of basic childhood and adolescent fears, the real monsters strike us! The fear of competition, the fear of failure, the fear of others’ success bothers us…makes us doubt our own capabilities! The fear of losing our emotional anchors, the fear of the unknown, of being inadequate frightens us.
“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.”― Plato
The illuminated path is very exciting and alluring but the fear of stumbling is always attached to it; as brightness often blinds our eyes…the alligators of defeating your efforts are waiting to devour you! Such fears shrink our heart; wound our spirit and skepticism creeps in to consume the remnants of our mettle to fight them.
IDENTIFY YOUR FEARS:
This is the first step on the ladder. Unless we know what scares us and accept its presence, we wont be able to eliminate it. Often we keep denying that some insecurity is bogging us down. It seems our ego refuses to accept the fears which keep lurking in some corner of our mind.
We don’t like to share and discuss our fears with anybody…again the reason could be the fear of being looked down upon or ridiculed! But sharing reduces the stress and burden of carrying negative thoughts. We must have at least one confidant to discuss our insecurities. It really helps.
When you are pushed to the wall, it starts crumbling and a day comes when you emerge bolder, with a resolve to face the world with all your might. The power of fear recedes as we learn to encounter it.
No two persons are alike. We have to understand that our efforts may not yield the same results as our friend or brother. So if the success of your own brother is putting some pressure on your performance, it is better to accept that he could be smarter or more hardworking or manipulative. You cannot possess his qualities and talent. You have to focus on your own aspirations and success.
TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR MIND:
Fear may be very subjective but it possesses a great motivating feature… as it impels us to take risks. So train your mind to think positive and all your fears will evaporate slowly.
“Seeing that a Pilot steers the ship in which we sail, who will never allow us to perish even in the midst of shipwrecks, there is no reason why our minds should be overwhelmed with fear…”John Calvin
With the armor of positive thinking, determination and will power, we can fight and conquer all kinds of fear.
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