Hypocrisy – the word we all abhor yet let it sink into our relationships. We live in denial, we invent our own definition and we turn our face the other side to convince ourselves…‘I am not a hypocrite!’
How rightly has Shannon L. Adler pointed out: “When you turn your back on hypocrisy and do nothing, you don’t change the hearts of others you change yours.”
Hypocrisy is probably as old as human race. There have always been double standards for males and females…the liberating effect has started showing in some parts of the globe but many more types of hypocrisies have crept in.
All cultures, regions and races have their own ways of looking at human behavior but basic conduct of mankind has been inherited. We tend to think highly of ourselves and consider others as inferior.
The effects of this kind of thinking can be read in the pages of history. Have you ever contemplated that racial prejudice, social injustice and various kinds of discrimination stem from hypocrisy?
Are you hypocritical? A quick check:
• Do you lie to save the situation?
• Do you feign to be good and generous?
• Do you step into the shoes of a virtuous person whenever the need arises?
• Do you say nice words just to please others?
• Do you condemn the behavior of others and overlook your weaknesses?
• Do you try to sit in judgment but hate those who try to do so?
• Can you respect and embrace a person you dislike?
Alas we live with many of these compulsions just to show our goodness!
We never judge ourselves with the same yardstick, as we tend to do others.
So if you are trying to answer correctly and the answer to even two questions is yes, you could be called hypocritical.
My earliest introduction to this term must have confused me, as I was too young to understand it. Now when I go back in time to recollect it, I can place those incidents as emotional hypocrisy. When I was told to wash the shoes of my brother and I questioned the discriminatory treatment, asking why doesn’t he wash mine, I was not given any satisfactory answer, I was beaten when I refused, mocked at, whereas my sibling smiled triumphantly.
I hated this kind of behavior and it must have left a deep scar on my psyche that’s why I have always been quick enough to see through hypocrisy.
Isn’t it ironical that we pick up hypocritical behavior from our homes?
Hypocrisy has got a respectable definition in modern times.
“When a child hits a child, we call it aggression.
When a child hits an adult, we call it hostility.
When an adult hits an adult, we call it assault.
When an adult hits a child, we call it discipline.” – Haim G. Ginott
Can there be a better definition of hypocrisy?
Trained to be hypocrites? We are taught to hide our true feelings, told to be polite even when others are rude, we learn to live with hypocrisy, know how to sham and wear different masks for different occasions. Ostentations become a part of our personality.
We learn to lie with sincerity, we become silver-tongued to hide our true nature, we condemn a behavior that we most often indulge in, we expect love and respect whereas we may withhold the same, we are always eager to check the flaws of others whereas never pay any attention to our own imperfections.
Infidelity is the most eloquent example of hypocrisy. The same people who condemn infidelity indulge in it surreptitiously.
Yes, hypocrites have NO emotional understanding.
I don’t want to talk about political and religious hypocrisy due to the complexities attached to them and it is quite difficult to understand them.
Can we get rid of hypocrisy?
Many times I wonder whether such a deep-rooted behavior can be corrected. This is possible only if we are true to ourselves.
Isn’t it better if we ask how are you feeling today rather than discussing the weather?
Isn’t it healthier if we give some honest answers without calling our friend inquisitive and interfering?
Isn’t it essential to remove the mask of courtesy and dig deeper to know why your neighbor has not been seen outside his/her house lately?
Emotional setbacks need to be shared; friends ought to lend a sympathetic ear as one genuine relationship can become exemplary.
I am sure you have such people around you. Do you ever wonder why they put up a contrived behavior? Do you feel comfortable in their company? I would love to hear your views.
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