Live Life Your Own Way


‘Do not dilute your joy’, says my friend.
What if others try to rob you?
What if you think they are right!
What when people drag you down…
Deliberately designed efforts
At concealing their mean malice

You can figure out but deny
You give a benefit of doubt.
When doubts prevail around
Listen to your heart
It knows you well
Only your heart can tell!

Disappointments don’t live long
Setbacks stay in your backyard
You just need to shrug them off
If you must dilute
Dilute judgments, disregard distress
Savor little moments of happiness.

Let the glow of positive thoughts
Permeate around your home
Let their incandescence
Scare the robbers away
If you must dilute
Dilute fears, disregard doubts

When you refuse
To be cowed down by circumstances
When you possess the potential
To turn tables around
Dilute your own efforts
As pleasing people is futile.

Live life your own way
Hold your joy in high esteem.
No one can control your thoughts
Till you let them
Listen to your heart, my friend
It knows you well.
© Balroop Singh.

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36 thoughts on “Live Life Your Own Way

  1. “As pleasing people is futile.” This line jumped out at me. It’s so true. We can’t please others all the time. Everyone is entitled to their opinion and so do us – not all of us will always agree. If we keep pleasing others, we might forget about doing what makes us happy. It is perfectly okay to say no to someone, and if they don’t understand why we don’t want to be a certain someone for them, then perhaps it is time we move on.

    Love how you ended the poem. The heart never lies. It speaks our deepest and darkest feelings, dreams and emotions. Listen to it and we will learn how to listen to our self and find our voices.

    1. Hi Mabel,

      I have seen people spending half their life in people pleasing and the other half in regret! 🙂 There is no end to making others happy but it serves no purpose as their expectations keep rising.

      Thank you for the lovely words of appreciation, they are invaluable as they continue to inspire. 🙂 Stay blessed!

  2. The steely determination to hold one’s joy in high esteem, confident of being able to dilute fears and neutralise the effect of failures with sheer force of dynamism within, shines through every word of the poem, balroop. In an earlier era, William Henley echoed these thoughts in the lines, ‘It matters not how strait the gate, / How charged with punishments the scroll, / I am the master of my fate; / I am the captain of my soul’.

    1. Thank you Raj for sharing those lovely lines of literature, so finely penned.
      Many thanks for standing by to analyse my humble effort, much appreciated. 🙂
      it is only the determination and the confidence that keeps us going through the dark corridors we all have to pace through. They prove to be enlightening though.

  3. Hi Balroop.

    Lovely lines indeed 🙂

    I wish we could all follow our hearts and do what we want, which isn’t possible always as one’s concerned and connected with so many others around us, but I guess there comes a time once you are over with your main duties to do so, isn’t it?

    Thanks for sharing. Happy weekend 🙂

    1. Hi Harleena,

      Good to see you, hope you had a relaxing break! Yes, we live life in phases and there comes a time when we have more control over our heart but following our heart requires a lot of courage. Most of the times our own fears, societal pressures and norms dissuade us. Circumstances control us and by the time we realise it, life fleets by!

      Thank you for sharing your view. Stay blessed. 🙂

  4. It is true that we have tremendous power in our minds to change our outlook on most anything. And yet I suspect we share the quality of emotional sensitivity. It is a paradox, no? The mind spins stories forward and back … the heart and emotions feel and sense … What to do? I find I simply have to withdraw to regroup and protect myself from the deluge of confusing energies that exists beyond our doors. Spend plenty of time outdoors, in the quiet, in the garden. Then I am more stabilized when I must interact with others, even enthusiastic. Aloha, Balroop. Good food for thought!

    1. Hi Bela,

      The power of the mind weakens when we develop the courage to follow our heart. Emotions rule the world…in vain do we exult over the power of the mind! When we step back and let the confusing thoughts settle, it is emotional intelligence that comes to our rescue.

      Thanks for speaking with so much clarity to stabilise the ‘spinning’ mind 🙂 Stay blessed!

  5. Listening to our hearts takes a lot of practice, and it can be hard to learn how to better be in tune with what it’s telling us. Over the past year, I’ve been working a lot on honing in on what it’s telling me.

    1. It is not just listening to our heart, which matters. It is also taking care of our joyful moments, which get drowned in fulfilling the expectations of others. It delights me that you have been paying attention to this challenging aspect of life.

      Thanks for sharing your view. Stay blessed.

  6. Balroop…this is awesome…loved each and every word…as long as we hold no ill will or malice towards anyone, our lives are happy, blissful and meaningful…
    Loved these lines…”Let the glow of positive thoughts
    Permeate around your home
    Let their incandescence
    Scare the robbers away
    If you must dilute
    Dilute fears, disregard doubts”..

    1. Thank you Sunita. Welcome to Emotional Shadows, I am glad you found my words worth commenting upon. I appreciate your standing by.
      I agree that ill-will and malice are the real robbers…to be scared away with our positivity. 🙂 Have a nice week.

      1. I am glad that I had the privilege of visiting your was a treasure trove of beautiful verses with powerful expressions.

  7. Yes Balroop, we do let others control our thoughts; we do so to win their heart or out of fear of losing them. Once we become confident in taking our own decisions, we can listen to our own selves first.
    It’s often said we should see goodness in everyone but then malice is very much a reality as some people are tuned like that and a sensitive person can easily break in such surroundings. Indeed, whatever life is left, we should try to define our own happiness by listening to our heart as to what it actually likes.

    1. Hi Alka,

      Some traditions and values get embedded in our minds and we are trained to listen to others first but it plays havoc with our own selves. It takes a long time to wriggle out of this conditioning.

      The moment we start listening to our hearts, life becomes much easier but that doesn’t take our goodness away! 🙂

      Thanks for sharing your perspective, much appreciated.

  8. I agree 100%, Balroop! I love this line:

    “Let the glow of positive thoughts
    Permeate around your home
    Let their incandescence
    Scare the robbers away”

    I try to do that all the time. Beautiful poem!! Thank you for the inspiration to follow and listen to our hearts.

  9. Yes, Balroop! Circumstances cowe us 🙂 but people cowe us even more. To be truthful to ourselves we have to manage the expectations, demands and desires of our loved ones who often believe they know best for us. When this person is an elder, a position of authority, a loved one, it makes following our truth challenging. Your premise is spot on, the path to staying true to yourself is a practice of a lifetime.

    1. Hi Vishnu,

      I too thought I know what is best for my children but at the same time I always tried to strike a balance, I gave freedom of thought and expression and respected whatever decisions were taken by them.

      A winner is the one who can deal with both – circumstances and people and still find happiness. 🙂 Thanks for sharing your view.

  10. Long may be the glow of positive thoughts Balroop that flow around you and your home my friend.. A beautiful uplifting poem.. May Life always be lived in your own way..
    Love and Warm Hugs
    Sue xxx

    1. Thank you dear Sue…I learnt to be positive as I saw too much of negativity around! Probably I had no choice and thought…all will be well…it slowly became a way of life.
      Love and hugs back to you dear friend. 🙂

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