#TankaTuesday #Poetry Challenge

People Pleasers

Bosses exult at their loyalty and sincerity. Friends mock their “loving nature.” Siblings bully them into believing that they are loved. Spouses manipulate them to get things done. The acquiescence and complacence of people pleasers baffles me. Some live in the make-believe world of self-admiration, thinking they are exceptional human beings, born to be altruistic. Others have some goals in mind, which they want to accomplish at all costs.

noble intentions
boomerang any moment
capsizes their boat
robs their identity off
tossed away by tide of life

Thanks to Colleen’s weekly TankaTuesday challenge, ( specific form) which has inspired me to create a tanka prose. Tanka is typically written in the 5-7-5-7-7: a five-line syllabic structure. Tanka prose always contains a title. One basic requirement: one paragraph, and one tanka.

Thank you.

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39 thoughts on “#TankaTuesday #Poetry Challenge

  1. Many years ago, I used to be a people pleaser, but out of a total lack of self-esteem rather than any goals (other than survival!). It took me years to see how selfish that way of living is all around. You’ve encapsulated so much in your Tanka Prose, Balroop 💕🙂

  2. When you are taught as a child to always try to please people, it’s hard to escape. There’s a difference between those doing it with malicious intent (to flatter, to get ahead), and those who feel anxious if they arouse displeasure because they’ve been conditioned to feel that way. (K)

    1. I am saddened to see that children were/are raised to be people pleasers. Being nice and kind affects our personality when it is taken too far. Earning somebody’s displeasure could be essential if a situation demands and if person deserves it. Too much goodness is taken as a weakness. 😊 Thank you for a thought-provoking comment.

      1. I’ve tried to shed the need myself, but I end up overcompensating which only makes me feel worse. The world still penalizes women for not being nice–see Hilary Clinton. You can’t win really.

  3. I was a people pleaser in my teens, Balroop. Like Harmony, it arose from poor self-esteem and a fear of being rejected. No more though. It’s much healthier to live with reasonable boundaries. Powerful poem, my friend.

    1. Teens look up to their parents and friends and their influence affects the development of their personalities. Some just get carried away and remain in that mold for a long time. Thank you for sharing your thoughts Diana. 🤗

  4. In my early twenties I worked with a people pleaser and watched her get taken advantage of every day. She was a great example for me of how not to be. Great poem, Balroop.

  5. I like tanka poems better than haiku. Seems to me a poet (like you) can “get in” so much more with these five lines. Oh, how easy it is to be tossed by the tides of life. ❤

  6. People pleasers, I used to be one of those long ago, putting everyone and everything ahead of me, fulfilling their wishes and hurting myself. Not anymore! Great topic and poem!

    1. I am glad you have learned to respect yourself Elizabeth. Liberation from oppressive habits is an accomplishment worth admiration. Thanks for popping in to share your thoughts.

  7. Wise and wonderful words that I think we can all relate to in one way or another, Balroop ~ but your verse holds something deeper which affects me deeper as well, how to move beyond the strange grip pleasing others can have on our lives. Beautiful post ~ and I love the title of your new book, that is awesome 🙂

    1. I have seen a lot of people pleasers, many get tossed from one end to another. They don’t seem to have any self-respect or it becomes a habit… whatever their reasons, I could never admire them. Thank you for sharing your lovely thoughts Randall.

  8. I haven’t heard of tanka prose, Balroop, with the paragraph and the tanka, so it’s great to learn something new. Wonderful poem, too. It’s sad to know some people strive to please others no matter what. Everyone deserves to have self-respect, but everyone also has their own story. So, it’s not always clear just where the pleasing stems from and if the person has a supportive circle to help remove themselves from that behavior and mindset. Your post is perfect for bringing awareness to this topic.

    1. I’ve learned to write many new forms after I started taking up the challenges of Colleen’s Tanka Tuesday. Syllabic poetry no longer scares me! 😀 Thank you for sharing your thoughts Lauren.

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