Respect Or Love?

“He who wants a rose must respect her thorn.”

“Choose one,” the command was loud and clear.

I was confused. How could I choose one? I didn’t know love and was too young to understand respect but I was argumentative and would always rise against the commands.

“I want both.” I spoke with immense confidence.

I was pushed aside. My turn was over. 

One by one each person was given a choice and they left the arena with the group they opted for. I kept on waiting. My blood boiled at the authoritative voice of the leader who took pleasure in his arbitrary designs on us. Who gave him this power to rule over our emotions? Why are we here? 

I looked around, trying to figure out the place. How did I reach here? Strange, stern faces stared at me.

“This is your last chance to choose,” I could hear some kindness in this voice.

“But why?” Before I could speak another word, I was dragged away into a dark alley and my sobs could be heard.


Some dreams keep coming back probably because some notions remain dormant in our subconscious minds. Whenever I read a disturbing book about injustice, my mind hurtles back and transports me into unimaginable lands that I could have seen in movies.

Love – the basic emotion that connects us with life and people.

Respect – the essential trait that raises man to his civilized state.

How could anyone survive without them? This question has always haunted my mind and keeps coming back whenever I see or hear about any atrocities being inflicted on fellow human beings.

Love can still be pretended but respect can’t be faked. It reveals itself through our body language. 

“I love you.” “You are my best friend.” I have heard many such refrains from people around me but I could make out from their body language and actions how selfish their love was. It changes its contours according to the situation.

Respect cannot be claimed. It shows itself, it reflects in the eyes. It is an offshoot of love.

Can you choose one? Yet there are people who have none. 

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Arrogant Autocrats

A drop of arrogance
Goes straight to the mind
It’s intoxication kills insightArrogance
Next, it attacks the eyes
Which fail to see others’ plight
It impairs the hearing
As they only hear what they like.

It also affects reasoning power
As all others in sight
Appear ‘fools’
‘Easy to manipulate.’
Puppets’, ready to dance
‘Dummies’, over eager to obey!

Arrogance accompanied by power
Creates insane authoritarians
Who think it is their right
To enslave all humanity
Who think they are always right.

Emotionally challenged, these
Arrogant autocrats fail to bond
With family, friends or employees,
As it is below their dignity to
Respect others’ self-esteem.

But he had more than just a drop
He had stumbled upon a draught!
So arrogance had wreaked havoc on
Whatever was left in his mind
All he could do was, install puppets
To dance to his tunes.

A self-proclaimed despot
This inebriated monster
Lives in a fools’ paradise.
He either disregards History
Or doesn’t have the IQ to understand
That Hitler was a loser!
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Are You A Puppet Or Like Pulling The Strings?


Are we just puppets, dancing to the tunes of our masters who keep changing?

Are we tuned to twirl and change according to the wishes and expectations of people around us?

The most powerful weapon is love, which influences us instantaneously. Equally potent is emotional blackmail.

Just watch children who can be easily trained with affection and endearing emotions.

As we step out into a wider sphere, we come across many people who can easily pull the strings and enjoy doing so!

Which side of the fence do you sit?

A marionette is usually a laid back person, does not have strong opinions about anything and lacks the determination to resist any control.

Who tunes such people?

Circumstances, people, society, family members, someone at our work place…could be our Puppeteer.

Since childhood we are conditioned to follow certain values and beliefs, which mold our personality. The environment in which we grow, the kind of people we interact with nurtures our thoughts and emotions.

Living with manipulative people who try to control even our emotions may affect us in a negative manner.

They make us believe that the whole world is like that; nothing works right without pulling the strings. They try to prove that they are always right.

I have worked with such persons. They are so efficient at creating their own puppets that many willingly walk into their den!

Flexible and weak-minded persons let it happen before they figure out how much they manage to change us.

Understanding manipulators

Once we realize that we are being pulled into the world of our manipulators, we can unfetter ourselves before they take control of our thoughts and opinions.

It is quite difficult to fathom the depth of their snares; these ‘brainwashers’ possess the clout to clutch us, without any real force.

They can overpower our minds just by talking or lurking behind the screen, influencing us through our own weaknesses.

I have been trying to understand the emotion attached to this kind of mindset – is it manipulation or inherent trait of establishing supremacy or both?

Why do we let our strings be pulled?Puppets

  • Fear of rejection?
  • Anxiety to please?
  • Inability to react?
  • Naivety in understanding?
  • Need of being loved?
  • To avoid conflict?
  • Eagerness to succeed?

Is there an emotional reasoning to tolerate them?

Don’t we encourage them by complying with their unfair demands, which keep going up, as we get accustomed to getting pulled?

Slowly we may accept the behavior of such people who try to condition us.

 How to resist manipulations?

Have you ever tried to wriggle out of their effective tactics?

Make an effort; that is the first step.

Be firm. We can convey our unwillingness to follow them blindly without being impolite. Develop the habit of taking your own decisions.

Love can never be an excuse to give into the demands of such people. Real love does not demand anything.

Don’t get carried away by their appreciation, which might be another strategy to use you or get more work out of you.

Refuse to give into their intimidation; fear is the major cause of becoming a puppet.

Be patient; study the demeanor and demands of such people and then decide. Impetuosity doesn’t help much.

Respect your self-esteem and your rights. Think freely and nurture the resilience to push all the pressures away.

Work on your weaknesses. Don’t talk about them openly as they can be exploited against you.

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