One-Year Journey…And It Continues!

First Anniversary

I shall be completing one year of blogging this week and so far this flight on the wings of words has been the most pleasant one. It has given me those precious moments of creative relaxation, which I had always yearned for in my extremely busy hours of life.

It was never on my mind that I would write a blog one day or I had so many moods, emotions and words to express my feelings. A person of few words, I always found poetry a more suitable genre of expression.

When I took the plunge, it was more out of impulse.

The number of blogs and the competition bewildered me.

Yet I found some calm and complacent bloggers, who find pleasure just in writing and guiding. They have been my biggest encouragement.

The Enticement:

My journey started one fine day when I stumbled upon a very inspiring blog and the beautiful reflections were so appealing that I couldn’t resist the temptation to share my thoughts. I am referring to:

IMG_Sandra_Outside-Croppedhttp://alwayswellwithin.com, managed by my loving, spiritual friend Sandra Pawula writer, teacher, and champion of mindfulness and ease. She helps people who are willing to think deeply and look within to find peace, happiness and freedom.

Her articles have the magic to transport you into her company, give you the privilege of basking in her spiritual journey, flow slowly with her enchanting words and feel… all is well, all around us and within us! She has truly changed so much within me, with her words. No words of gratitude are enough for her as she helped me discover an unknown aspect of my personality.

How I learnt to blog:

Ramsay_Blog_TyrantOne day, while reading one of the articles at her blog, I came across a comment by www.Blogtyrant.com and got inquisitive. I visited this blog and his inspiring words were so infectious that they infused a new wave of confidence in me. I felt that I too could learn to blog. His step-by-step guidelines and advice was so effective and encouraging that I was actually able to create this platform to give vent to my emotions. No wonder his blog is amazingly busy! Thank you Ramsey for revealing all the tech jargon in a very simple language.

I found the music of my soul here:

W3WpGsaA_400x400http://positiveprovocations.com totally draped and swathed with positivity, always living up to its name, Zeenat Merchant Syal is the zeenat (glory) of this blog, which is her ‘little piece of Heaven.’

She strives for a happier, more loving and positive world in and around her. She inspires and motivates her readers to be the best and the happiest. She is a practicing counseling psychologist, spiritual counselor, motivational speaker, naturopath, holistic healer and a writer.

Zeenat’s mesmerizing words of robust optimism and tenacious positivity impel you to visit her the moment she updates her blog. Her soft and gentle nudge awakens you out of your slumber to realize that with loving care, positive thoughts and actions everything can be achieved, personally as well as professionally.

And I found the wings:

Harleena-SinghBy now I had learnt the tricks of hopping from one blog to another and I came across an amazing friend, Harleena, ‘the Queen Blogger’ and for the first time I saw that blogs could be so organized and blogging can be a serious business.

www.aha-now.com, a haven of personal development and self-improvement is managed by Harleena, who is a positive thinker, a freelance writer and benevolent beyond belief. She loves to write inspiring and thought provoking posts on family, relationships, health, and myriad other aspects of life. She is an anchor for all those who want to solve the problems of their life in a realistic manner. No wonder her popularity in the blogosphere is unparalleled. Her unstinted support has given wings to ‘Emotional Shadows.’

My first steadfast friend:

Mike-And-Phoenix-About-Me-Pic-300x300He visited my blog when I didn’t have any friends; when I was still stumbling and wavering, when I didn’t know how to build up communications. I am extremely thankful to Mike and Phoenix, for being an embodiment of genuine friendship. I value it immensely.

Mike Vogler of http://pastmycurfew.com, who calls himself ‘a night owl’, has been my first committed friend and follower who always encouraged me with his thoughtful words. His son and soul mate, Phoenix, his golden retriever, who activated his energies, watched him with the most sensuous expression in his eyes when he sits at his keyboard, writing about places he’d like to visit, food he’d like to eat, and reflecting on the crazy things that happen in his life. His pictures speak more than his words! The food he cooks and the way he enjoys his cooking can beat the best of chefs! Phoenix, his most doting confidante always looked at him as if to ask why he is so passionate about every little detail and why he keeps writing so late at night!

Sadly Phoenix was snatched away recently by the callous monster – cancer, though both Phoenix and Mike fought fiercely against it.

How I learnt to communicate in blogosphere:

BlogPostPhotoThrough aha-now.com, I found another wonderful friend, Adrienne Smith – ‘the Engagement Superstar’…the Empress of Cordiality… and a totally new world unfolded before me when I visited www.adriennesmith.net. As soon as I signed up for her newsletter, I realized how communications are built. Her warmth can leap up to you through her words and her altruistic outlook can infuse a new spirit into your thoughts. She thinks she was born to help people and they keep streaming into her blog to learn how to be successful, how to build such an engaging community, why she has so many return visitors to her blog.

Then I met the Wisdom Guru!

b363bb323060b10dab99bbb2876abaafI would also like to express my deepest gratitude to Vishnu, of http://www.vishnusvirtues.com – an online wisdom-filled sanctuary. I was attracted to his site due to the unique name and was not disappointed! True to his name he is not only providing enlightenment and support to all those who get in touch with him but also preserving all that can be salvaged from their broken dreams to bring clarity and purpose to their life.

Vishnu speaks from his heart and his words always touch your soul. The pearls of his wisdom have been recorded in the annals of ‘Emotional Shadows’ too.

I have met many more wonderful friends like you and so my journey continues with the support of each one of you and all those silent admirers who visit my humble abode of creativity.

I look forward to the support of each one of you. Your feedback is a valuable asset; please keep contributing your insights.

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Balroop Singh

 

Friendship: Why Are Some Friends So Special?

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The word ‘friendship’ has trailed me since childhood. I could never find a satisfactory definition of this word. More than friends, I have been fascinated by the charisma of this word – ‘friendship.’

I don’t have any memories of childhood friends and often wonder – did I have any friends? I remember I could never take an initiative to walk up to a person and say something.

I always waited, thinking…do they like me? Will they be friends with me?

Probably I was an introvert, though I didn’t know the meaning of this word at that time. Even now, I have a few friends whom I can count on my fingertips.

Probably my definition of friendship is different.

“Friends are our second selves.”– Aristotle

WHY DO WE NEED ‘OUR SECOND SELVES’?

In childhood as we realize the need of companionship, we like to be with our friends to play, to feel happy, to connect, to share and we learn from them. We realize that there is actually another self, within us, which we need to discover.

In adolescence –

  • Friends play an important role in our growth
  • They become our emotional anchors
  • Help us feel confident
  • Improve our habits and behavior
  • Increase our awareness
  • Help in defining our goals
  • Develop competitive spirit
  • Challenge our strengths
  • Inspire us
  • Bring the best out of us.

There are many kinds of friends and we need all of them like the colors of a rainbow. Some provide fun and joy while others are like deep indigo, absorbing all our secrets, all the worries that we share and steer us into the brighter hues. They make us see how beautiful life is!

As adults – when we mature and move on with life, many friends are abandoned either due to circumstances or different direction that our life takes. At this stage of life we realize the worth of real friends, who adhere to us, despite all odds.

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I believe we all have such friends, who hold an exceptional place in our life. We think of them in our moments of joy, more so when we are in a dilemma, when we need an advice and we know that they would be there to help.

The emotions that bind us are so inexplicable that even we fail to fathom them. Such a bonding develops slowly, over the years and gets so cemented that people marvel at its strength.

There are some unique qualities, which such friends possess:

They love unconditionally:

Like mother’s love, they never hold back anything; they never raise any questions. Real friends don’t have any expectations – they just value friendship. Their affection comes from the heart; it flows naturally like a waterfall. They never doubt your intentions even when they are instigated against you.

They pick up the vibes:

They don’t need to be told that you are distressed or disturbed. They just look into your eyes and know that you need them. They can read your heart, understand your anguish and provide succor with their touch. Their soothing words can relieve all your worries. Such friends may be very rare to find but fortunately I have seen them.

They are consistent:

They don’t change with the seasons of life. They don’t have excuses when you call them. They are so steadfast and trustworthy that people may gape at their sincerity! They uphold the old values propounded by Socrates: “Be slow to fall into friendship, but when you are in, continue firm and constant.”

They have invincible faith in you:

They don’t need to check what others say about you because they know you and believe their gut feeling. They stand by you when you need them the most, when all others abandon you under some kind of pressure or fear. You can call them at midnight, without any qualms.

They criticize you:

Real friends possess the power to point out your weaknesses. They say what is true and not just nod their heads in affirmation when you need to be corrected. They don’t hesitate in saying what might hurt you because they know how significant their words are for you. They can mold you into a positive person.

They really listen and understand:

You can share the most frightful secrets of your life with them and still feel at ease. They don’t have any pretensions, would never betray your trust or let you down. They may not have a word of wisdom to erase those memories but they surely lighten your burden.

Now the question is – how do you know you have such a friend?

The answer lies in your heart. If you can be such a person, you surely have such a friend. How aptly has George Herbert answered: “The best mirror is an old friend.”

I dedicate this post to my old friends, who have always stood by me, provided me encouragement to go on unwavering, with head above all the storms and hurricanes of life.

Have you got such friends? How did you meet them? I would love to hear your views.

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Thank you for your support. Please add your valuable reflections, they are much appreciated.

Balroop Singh.

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