While it is natural to think about the past, which holds our memories and mistakes and inspires us to learn from them to move ahead, living in the present is the most worthwhile experience.
Living in the present moment, far away from the broodings of past and the apprehensions of uncertain, unpredictable future is so prudent, practical and sensible. Yet we keep drifting back and forth, seeking solace in the past memories and living in the illusionary world of future.
Why do people dwell in the past?
- Stressful events of the past cling to us, making us think what went wrong, who was at fault.
- Guilt doesn’t dissolve till we have ruminated enough, fixed responsibility or found a solution.
- Negative thoughts are more powerful and require extra energy to dispel them.
- Some hurtful memories keep haunting us.
- Some shocking discoveries about the family could be difficult to forget.
- Emotional distress takes a longer time to heal.
If you too get mired in the regrets and hurts of the past, I must tell you that I have not come across a better description of living in the present:
“I lit the candles and said out loud, “what am I waiting on? Someone to sell them in a garage sale for a quarter after I die?” And it was beautiful. And the smell was even more incredible than I remembered.”–Paula Heller Garland
Whenever abrasive past stands before me, I talk it out of my mind. I write a poem on the shadows of past and bury this demon with more words.
I savor the present moment. This is the only asset in our hands. Live it happily. Give your best to this moment for you will cherish it tomorrow.
I have always lived in the present, accepted the misfortunes, made peace with the disappointments, delighted in its little blessings, found happiness in whatever the present moment has offered and sat in the shadows of sadness to let the dark moments of my past pass by.
Living in the present
- Keeps us focused
- Frees us from anxiety
- Encourages us to put in our best
- Makes us emotionally strong
- Improves our mental health
- Gives happiness that lasts
What prevents us from living in the present?
We are constantly judging ourselves, we keep talking to ourselves, finding fault with our decisions and disturb our own serenity of mind.
Past connects us with our present, which could be distressing due to our own faults.
It also depends on the kind of personality we have. Some people are brooders. They are prone to negative thinking. Doubts dominate their thoughts and anxiety flows in their veins. This anxiety ruins the little moments we could savor!
Research has shown that focusing on the past reduces the power of positive emotions.
It is very natural to think about the future and onerous to forget the past completely. Present stems from the past and steers us into the future. These links cannot be snapped. Perfectly fine! Don’t snap those links.
Living in the present doesn’t mean de-linking from the past or stop planning for the future. It just means protecting our mind from negative thoughts, leading a more meaningful life, staying focused on our goals, hoping for the best and be happy.
“If you are depressed, you are living in the past
If you are anxious, you are living in the future
If you are at peace, you are living in the present.”
–Lao Tzu
Do you live in the present? Do the ghosts of your past haunt you? Is the planning for future overwhelming?
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Balroop Singh.
Emotional Shadows 