No sane soul hurts deliberately. Yet hurts happen. Today I want to discuss emotional hurts, which remain deep-rooted, which keep gnawing at our hearts, as we don’t want to share them for fear of ridicule or exposing our relationships, which may appear to be loving and smooth.
Why do people hurt?
- Insensitivity towards others
- Lack of emotional quotient
- Lack of communication skills
- Jealousy
- Arrogance
- Vindictive attitude
- Own selfish motives.
Selfish people never think of others. Even if they do, their own pursuits are so overwhelming for them that they are able to justify themselves. They buy peace with self- arguments and get rid of the guilt of hurting their own near and dear ones.
Sometimes vile and toxic people around them encourage them in their goals, by glorifying their efforts to guide them. Such people snatch them away from their most loving friends and relatives.
Sometimes we hurt others unknowingly. We use such words, which pierce the hearts, without realizing their impact.
Have you ever felt the depth of hurt? It is much deeper than we think it to be.
Emotional hurts leave longer shadows behind them. Unlike physical hurts, they are invisible but the marks they make on our psyche are indelible. While some hurts may be subtle, some stare starkly at us and become a burden.
Time is said to be a great healer but it doesn’t really heal. It just fades the memories of hurts. They keep returning in your solemn moments, in your dreams and when ever you think of that person.
SELF- HEALING
We keep burying emotional hurts into the deepest crevices of our hearts and only address them when they become unbearable. At this point we think of going to a therapist who directs us back to our own efforts!
So self-healing is the only answer and that too requires a huge effort:
- Keep the thoughts of hurts away by engaging in meaningful tasks.
- If you must think, try to analyze why you were hurt and who is responsible.
- There is no harm in admitting if you are the cause. It will help in keeping your mind clear of all the clutter.
- Accept the fact that the person who has hurt you is no longer attached to you; he or she doesn’t care about your feelings.
- It is better to detach yourself.
- Be Positive. Respect yourself.
- Forgive and forget. Forgiveness is the first step to self-healing.
It is very painful to detach, I know. That is why probably, time is given the greatest credit but in reality, only self-efforts have the healing power.
Try the following tips:
Talk to yourself: Self- talking is a very powerful tool in our hands. Let the talk go on and on, don’t try to give it a direction. Let the positive and negative thoughts flow on. When they exhaust themselves, then sift through your thoughts and pick up the positive ones to convince yourself that it is not your fault.
It is just a phase: Accept that you are just going through a bad phase. Everybody has to. You don’t have any control over the circumstances but you can control the damage, which the present situation might do to your mental and emotional health.
Keep yourself busy: If you have work, bury yourself in that. It will keep you away from the depressive thoughts for a while. In case you don’t have a regular routine to keep yourself busy, read a good book, visit a friend, go and meet somebody whose company gives you relief and comfort.
Share your thoughts: Don’t conceal emotional wounds. When you speak out your mind, half of the burden wears off. You can discuss your anxieties and fears with a person you trust, a friend or your mother or sister, whosoever you are comfortable with. It gives immense relief and you will feel lighter.
Cry your heart out: As you share your feelings, let the tears flow. They bring about catharsis and have an amazing healing power. The pain of your heart will melt away for the time being. Let all the thoughts of regret, guilt and forgiveness visit you again and again and let them flow away.
Pour your heart out: Write down all your thoughts, the remorse and the censure and your answers to all the questions that are troubling you. It will give you a strange self- satisfaction and self-healing.
Listen to good music: Good music is a great healing balm; it takes us out of our situation and provides a soothing touch to our heart and soul. “For me, singing sad songs often has a way of healing a situation. It gets the hurt out in the open into the light, out of the darkness.” – Reba McEntire
Have faith in yourself. Self- therapy requires great determination to push aside your anguish and have immense faith in your efforts.
Can hurts ever be forgotten?
We try to deny them in our mind. We tell ourselves that they don’t matter to us but emotional wounds get deeper if we don’t acknowledge them.
Thank you for reading this. Please share your valuable reflections, as they are much appreciated.
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Balroop Singh.
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