Whosoever invented arranged marriages didn’t have love or sex in mind, as both appear to be more attractive outside a marriage.
An arranged marriage is much more than that…it is a life time commitment through thick and thin, it is like wading into deep waters, knowing well that we may drown if we lose the focus, it is accepting the obligations of not only taking care of the progenies but also the parents of each other and their relatives.
The cultural encumbrances of such a marriage may frustrate you at times but nobody ever thinks of walking out over trivial issues.
All this and much more is revealed in Vishnu’s book.
This post has been inspired from my dearest friend Vishnu’s latest book – ‘Arranged Marriage.’
Marriage may be an ‘over-rated institution’ but all enter into it to taste the bittersweet fruit that it offers.
Why not plan it – asks Vishnu!
Why not give the responsibility of arranging it into the hands of experienced gurus, grandmothers and aunts, who only think of your welfare and happiness.
Vishnu delves deep into the seriousness of marriage as a sacred bond, which can last forever if we tread carefully.
He is immensely focused in this book and presents a superb case for arranged marriages, without actually forcing them down your throat.
He discusses the pros and cons of such a marriage, which is more a union of two families than two persons.
If you wonder how others can prove to be more successful in choosing the right partner for you, then this book is surely for you!
If you have dismissed arranged marriages as obsolete, retrogressive and stifling, then you must read a fresh modern perspective it presents.
You must read it even if you have migrated oversees but would like to pass on your culture and your traditions to your next generation.
This book can be very interesting and informative for those who don’t have any idea about Indian weddings, which are planned most meticulously.
Though I know an arranged marriage very well, having gone through this roller coaster ride most successfully, I still enjoyed reading this book as it incorporates subtle humor to bring out certain solemn details. Despite that, the author does not make fun of any of the age-old traditions, which dissuade many a young couple to go in for an arranged marriage.
This book also took me down the memory lane…
I am reminded of a story, which was a part of high school supplementary reader, and after reading it each year, we had to discuss the basis of marriage.
The youngsters, at the brink of discovering what is love, enjoyed this discussion the most and would come out with the most incredible arguments. Most of them would justify marrying for love and looks. They wanted a free choice, didn’t want to involve a third person and live for love!
Culture and tradition was thrown to the winds at that stage of life and I would always conclude… ‘it is good law doesn’t permit teenage marriage.’
Once the youngsters grow up into mature individuals, they laugh away their adolescent dreams and beliefs and marry, quite willingly according to their parents’ wishes.
There is no magic wand for a successful marriage. It all depends on your own commitment, forbearance and patience.
Arranged marriage ensures the cultivation of all these virtues to come up to the expectations of family, society and cultural norms.
Fawn Weaver must be having an arranged marriage in mind when he said, “Marriage is like watching the color of leaves in the fall; ever changing and more stunningly beautiful with each passing day.” There cannot be a better analogy than this for an arranged marriage, which matures with time, goes through various stages, sheds its worn out leaves and thrives on hope that fall brings.
I hope you have enjoyed the analysis of this book. There could be another perspective. I would be eager to hear that.
You can grab a free copy at Amazon.com
To pick up Vishnu’s book, Arranged Marriage: Run to the Altar or Run for Your Life, click here. It’s available free on July 20th and July 21st, 2015.
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